Operating principle: Do not let these eight things make you cynical. Use them to elevate yours – and others’ – human experience.
These are the eight things you need to be ready, willing and able to put into action, like a quarterback checks off a play depending on what the defense is trying to confuse him with.
1. People’s personal development matters: good, bad, and ugly events from our childhood influence us for the rest of our lives. The more aware a person is of these influences the more s/he can choose high-probability-of-success behaviours.
2. The key developmental set of events is how adults – because of our interpretation of childhood events, for better or for worse – interact with authority figures.
- Some of us are rebellious and defiant.
- Others strive to accommodate, most people become slaves to authority.
- The rebel needs to give up her/his demand to be understood.
- Accommodators do a lot better when they, like the lion in “The Wizard of Oz,” act courageously on their own values.
- Slaves to authority need to start thinking and acting for themselves, rather than waiting to be rescued by some higher authority.
3. All of us are ambivalent about relationships. Think about it. When we get annoyed or conflicted with others we tend to want to eject ourselves from the conversation.
4. Self-deception is a very common human experience. We lie to ourselves about our motives and desires, then make up theories to make our lies, “THE truth.”
5. There are real, biological, psychological, and spiritual differences between women and men. These differences can make our lives interesting or miserable. Choose one or the other.
6. Leadership and followership are inextricably intertwined with each other – ya can’t have one with the other.
7. Most leaders take, or are promoted into, leadership positions because of charisma, and because of that tend to be narcissistic, maybe even psychopathic.
8. People who only choose to be followers are needy, dependent, and studiously lemming-like.
Are you able and willing to face – and work with – the realty of our human foibles?
Dr. Jim Sellner, PhD., DipC.
Author: Leadership for Einsteins: How Smart Leaders Bring Out the Genius in People
Account-Ability: The Science of Human Performance — The Skill &Will of Getting Things Done
“Research-based and practical, Leadership for Einsteins shows you exactly what you can change at work and what you can’t. By following Dr. Sellner’s steps, you will master effectiveness in all areas of your life!”
~Marshall Goldsmith, author of the New York Times and global bestseller, What Got You Here Won’t Get You There and dozens of other books. Also a Thinkers 50 Top Ten Global Business Thinker and top-ranked executive coach.